Spare Baby Equipment

akbukcyd · 23rd May 2009, 21:42

Are there any TLF members who have any baby equipment they do not want as I know of a young English girl who is having a baby boy in July and has no help whatsoever as she cant go back to the UK. She needs absolutely everything. I am trying to help her as she is a lovely girl whose parents have turned their backs.

If you can help great, if you cant then please dont put negative comments!!!

EVELYNNE · 23rd May 2009, 21:55

I can't help you cyd , but I'm sure someone will help, at least she has got help and support from you in what must be worrying times. Hope all goes well for her.

Eve x

akbukcyd · 23rd May 2009, 22:20

Thanks anyway. Will keep TLF members posted. I am seeing her tomorrow and I am sure she will appreciate any help whatsoever!

carolgriffiths · 24th May 2009, 07:05

I will ask friends who have a baby.
Best piece of advice would be for the young girl to return to UK and get in contact with the necessary agencies..............she has a responsibility comong along and would be better in UK supported by agencies etc

akbukcyd · 24th May 2009, 14:41

Thanks a lot for any offers of help. I have already told her it would be best for her to go back to the uk but it is not an option for her at the moment. I need to find out more info i.e. if the baby is born here, the father is Turkish, mother English, what would the baby be, could she go back to UK after birth and at least claim child benefit. Does anyone have accurate info?

gwendy · 24th May 2009, 15:20

Hi Cyd I will be coming back the end of june, will see what I can fit in my case, I will pm you when I have the date

luckycat68 · 24th May 2009, 15:56

Nice of you to help her Cyd - but surely she would be sensible to go back to UK and get help !
Also I think that if the child born here and is a boy he would have to do military ??
Correct me if wrong ( I am sure someone will LOL )
She should have the child in UK and then come back if she still wants to

Ardina · 24th May 2009, 17:03

As far as I am aware, if one of the parents is turkish the child automatically becomes turkish citizen, with all rights and obligations as stated by the constitution (military service etc.), not sure if it is so if parents are not officially married. In maternity house they issue the birth confirmation paper, based on it related agencies issue the turkish citizen ID. As Turkey accept dual citizenship, the baby also can be given British one, but I dont think this matter would release from the military service in Turkey in the future.
As mother of three children, I also would advise the girl to go back to home country, unless she has good care from her partner here (but seems it is not so?). I wish someone close explain to the girl how hard it would be to have a baby and no constant support at least at the beginning, both physically and emotionally.

welshlea · 24th May 2009, 18:17

I don't know if it is true but I was told if you have a baby with a Turkish partner then you would need his permission to take the baby out of the country once it is born, if she is alone and not with the father then this would make it very complicated once the baby is born. It is worth looking into this.

akbukcyd · 24th May 2009, 19:24

Thank you all TLF members for your imput and information. I will certainly be digesting all this in the next few days beffore I go to see her and will try and persuade her to go back to the UK for the birth but i dont know if that will be possible. I dont think I mentioned it but she has a Turkish husband of four months who is a lovely guy but is earning hardly anything and has workedi n the same job for 5 years. I want to give her the right advice as we seem to have adopted each other and I just think if it was one of my daughters how i would feel.

Thanks for all offers of clothes and equipment. Will keep you all posted on developments.