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Old 20th May 2020, 19:36   #1221 (permalink)
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Be kind to yourself Maisie. Just do the bits you can in the garden and stop when you've had enough. Good you've found a meal source to help you at the minute. I'm glad mark and his wife are providing you with support.

One of my very good friends only has a week or two left as she is dying of cancer. I can't see her which is so hard and just as importantly I can't provide support for her husband who is also a great friend and is suffering badly. He's keeping her at home as in their area the only other option would be a care home, no hospice provision. If Dave had still been alive you and he would be in a right state with no contact because of the virus.

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We went to a funeral this afternoon, Welsh chapel down the road from us, open air and all spread out across the field by the graveyard. It was a glorious sunny day with a bit of a breeze, music and speakers, such a waste of a life, aged 34, he was son of a friend.
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Kanga.. so sad. Sad to hear of someone so young.
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We went to a funeral this afternoon, Welsh chapel down the road from us, open air and all spread out across the field by the graveyard. It was a glorious sunny day with a bit of a breeze, music and speakers, such a waste of a life, aged 34, he was son of a friend.
My sister died in hospital from Covid 19. She went in way before the virus to try and sort out her pain relief and obviously caught it while in there. Her funeral is tomorrow and I am on complete isolation and with the regulations banned from leaving Wales. It is a woodland burial in a wicker coffin and only 7 family members can attend who will have to respect the 2 metre rule as they are all from different household. So will visit the grave when the regulations allow. Sad times.
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Kanga: was this Covid 19?

Kalkan Regular: Yes, I agree. It was bad enough for the few days that Dave had left not being able to go and see him, although I did not know he only had a few days at the time.

So sorry to hear of your friend and her husband. It must be so difficult for you, wanting to help but can't. My neighbour from opposite talked to me from a safe distance yesterday. She is upset about Dave and kept saying she was giving me virtual hugs. This upsets me. Also, a lady we know slightly from much further down the road passed whilst I was outside. She asked how Dave was doing. This also started me off again. I hate this in public, but I can't help it.

I actually finished 90% of the front garden yesterday. I went out at 11.45am. The back of our house faces south, so the sun was just coming round to shine on the front as it headed west. I cut the Aucubas, cut the Castor Oil Plant, cut some of the privet but left the horrible spikey one! I managed to remove all the triffid-like weeds and the smaller ones. I have quite large rubbish sacks that I get from a market stall. Much stronger and about half as wide again as the ordinary bin bags. I had seven bags in all. My neighbour took them to the tree for me, and I watched this morning as they all got taken away. I had also put out a pair of Dave's wellingtons that he only used when he used to wash the car. They are a bit worn on the soles, but still okay to use to keep feet dry. Probably no good for ice and snow, a bit slippy. I hoped someone would remove them. But no, they were still standing outside my house in splendid isolation after all the bags had gone! I have brought them back in and will put them in a black bag next week.

The temperature in the garden all afternoon was 84 degrees in the shade! I have a thermometer permanently fixed to one end of the brick shed wall where it is permanently shaded and I can see it from the kitchen. It must have been something like that in the front, but I didn't really notice is as I was working.

Before the rubbish goes next week (provided there is not much rain) I will finish cutting the privet. Alarmingly I found that the spikey plant seems to be falling into the front garden. Because of the spikes, we have cut the branches off at body level, but this has left the top to grow unchallenged. I think it has now created a hammer effect with the weight at the top. I talked to Mark about it last night, and we have decided to try and take it out. The trunk is about 4 - 5 " across. I think we will just have to do the best we can, cut it at near ground level and drill holes in it for SBK Brushwood killer, or something similar. I know you can get stump and root killers just for this purpose. When it has gone, I will plant another Aucuba as these grow quite well in the front.

I didn't dig over the border (which slopes up to the front wall) as I was quite worn out. I came back indoors at 7.15pm. Seven and half hours was quite enough!

Today I am not doing a lot. I have been out into the garden (82 degrees today) and watered my pots of beans, which all seem to be growing okay. Not so the tomatoes though. No signs there at all.

Time for a drink methinks. My chair here in the 'office' gets the sun through from the window on the left - and it is getting a bit warm!

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jcrian: so sorry to hear that you cannot attend your sister's funeral. This virus has disrupted so many lives in such awful ways.

I assume from what you say that you did not live close.

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Nothing much going on. I have been pottering in the garden, catching up on a bit of remedial sewing, some ironing, etc. etc. All the usual four letter words, wash, wipe, dust, iron etc. I also had a bit of a clear up in the kitchen. On one worktop I had numerous mugs. Not necessary and taking up too much space. I boxed up loads of them. I have left one dozen on two mug trees, and a few separate.

Over the last few months I have been collecting (mainly from eBay) rose gold cutlery. Because I like the look of it. Not because I need it! We bought a huge canteen of Kings pattern cutlery many years ago. The shop we bought it from closed in 1996, so it is quite old. If I remember rightly we bought it as our Christmas present, we went halves on the cost. It was quite expensive, but it shows. It has been used constantly and looks as good as the day we got it. I also have an equivalent amount of Kings cutlery that I bought for the villa in Turkey, so most of that has been put in the canteen also. Fortunately the canteen is large and has extra room. But I like the rose gold stuff! I have bought four rose gold cutlery baskets, so they are next to the mug trees. I have an old empty wood canteen, but nothing fits! Typical!

Mark brought the hedge cutter back, so some time this week I will have a go at the hedge. As the garden centres are now reopening, I can take a piece in to our local one to see what is wrong with the hedge - hopefully.

I shall leave it for this week, but next week I will try to get someone to put my satellite dish up. Then, the next 'big' job is getting a company in to re-roof my brick shed. As I can't empty it, the weather will have to be fairly stable. Mark has found a company who specialise in flat rooves. Their advertising blurb says that they do it once - for life. Sounds good, but I wonder how much?

My beans are coming along nicely, and just one tomato is showing! I think I will have to buy some of these from the garden centre when I can get there.

Juliet is starting a new job today and Mark said he will come round after dropping her off to take me shopping. Not sure about this. We'll see.

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Life is pogressing well for you Maisie. I admire you. Hope the weather is kind to you (you deserve that at least) and that you can continue with all your gardening projects.
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Juliet had her job cancelled yesterday - today instead. So both of them came round and we went shopping to Aldi. They brought me back after to sort out the shopping and came back an hour later to take me to theirs for dinner.

They had an ulterior motive though! They have a large under the stairs cupboard that they use as their store cupboard, for tins, bottles, jars etc. It had got really out of hand and they were unable to actually get in there. Stand outside and stretch! Mark said that I was far more organised (?) than Juliet, and he wanted my help to sort the cupboard. It took us nearly five hours! I did tell him that we were starting too late, it was really a first thing in the morning job. But, we got there. Half past midnight when we finished. Loads of out of date stuff. Not just a bit, seriously out of date, like 2013! I have to say that I was brought up in the days before they invented use by dates, and really I don't take too much notice of dates. Particularly on unopened jars and bottles. Tins last almost for ever. Ask the soldiers from the last war! But Juliet is quite fussy about dates and seems to have indoctrinated Mark. I convinced him on a few items, but I came home with a couple of bags that I will have no qualms about eating - despite the date. Not from 2013 though! Mark chucked out things that had only gone past the date in March 2020!

Juliet had got me five tomato plants free from someone on Facebook, so that solves that problem. They will have to wait for potting though. They are okay in the pots for now. Anyway, my washing had been piling up, so I decided to do that first. Hence the lateness of this post. I have two lines full blowing in the lovely sunny weather.

I have a couple of items from eBay that need returning as unsatisfactory. I have telephoned the local post office and found out that they are open until 3.00pm each day, so I will go out with those tomorrow. I have a face mask! So Dave's rollator will come into use again. I do need a couple of new roses for the watering cans, so will go to the pound shop. If not, Wilko will be open. Like Aldi, I expect I will have to queue to get in, but we didn't wait long and the rollator has a seat.

I have finally heard from the last of Dave's pension companies, so I have the paperwork to post to them. Which will, of course, generate another P2 Notice of Coding when they get into gear and pay me. So far I have had four P2s. Once I know my total income, I intend to tell HMRC that I want the code number sorted out. I know that they are charging me too much tax, but I am not prepared to wait until next April to get it back! I have a small pension of my own and the last payment was only 50% of the previous total! Wrong! Don't you just love the tax man?

Sitting in the garden seems to be beckoning, so I shall spend a few hours out there - doing nothing more adventurous than catching up on my reading. I am aching a bit from all the bending to retrieve items from the floor at Mark's yesterday, so taking it easy today should help.

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I have started to look again at Dave's estate. I have been informed that as we owned our home jointly, I automatically inherit Dave's half of the value and that this does not count towards his total estate. Is this right?

I have contacted the Land Registry who have confirmed that I do not need to do anything, unless I really want to. They say that the property is automatically mine now. They said that if, at some stage, I wanted to sort this 'officially', then I can send them a copy of Dave's Death Certificate and get the registry details changed to my name only. Otherwise, they say just to keep the certificate with the deeds.

If this is correct, then this will make things so much easier for me. Dave had some savings, but not oodles unfortunately. He also had some shares in his own name. I know that these count towards the estate, but even these added to the actual cash (minus the funeral costs) will be very low, well below 250,000.00, if I do not have to include the 50% value of our home.

This has been worrying me somewhat. Because the half value of our home would take up most of the 250,000.00 amount below which inheritance tax will not apply. To be honest, I do not think the value of the shares will be a huge amount, but if the value of the home is taken out of the equation, then I will have a much easier ride.

I still have to contact the shares companies for a valuation at the date of Dave's death on 31st March 2020, but if all this is correct, then a great weight has been removed.

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