a gift for someone special

[shirleyanntr]

Rightly or wrongly back in May i started a thread about a friend called Ali Karabulut.
At that time my only reason was to let others read about him,and give us thought about how a simple days pleasure can quickly turn into a lifetime of trouble and trauma ...as it did for Ali.

İ met Ali on seslisozuk turkish/english forum.
i had seen some answers about English grammar that Ali had made that i might not have agreed with at the time..and i thought ..who is this arrogant person that thinks he knows more about my language than me....so i looked his profile up.. and then the link to his web page and i was humbled..i was the arrogant one. he wrote so poignantly about the day he broke his neck, i couldnt get him out of my mind.

Afterwards İ wrote to him, a long rambling bumbling letter which is my style when i'm trying to get under somebody's skin....and he answered me..a really nice eloquent letter. ..that must be three years ago now, and we have corresponded off and on in that time.

i was a little concerned about where he was earlier this year when i realised that he hadnt been on seslisozluk for a while,and i wondered how he was.

and thats why i posted his link on here as i thought it might be nice for him to meet some new people.

As usual i jumped in without looking....and then when all the posts came on and people said they would write, and offering to help ....i started panicking and thought i'd better let him know where all these people had come from.
Now he knows,...and he has been embarrassed and a little miffed with me, but i think he is beginning to see we are ok, we mean well, its the way brits behave.

Now i come to the meaning behind the title to my thread, this man doesnt want anything,hasn't asked for anything..apart from some honey for his bedsores which he will pay for. But as someone who was involved with caring for people all my life i know that there is a difference between not wanting, yet still needing.

Turkey is wonderful, its making great strides in all fields but care in the community as we know it is non existent...and so an elderly mother must do what she can for her son without any nursing experience, just her own devotion.

What i want to get is a special dynamic air flow mattress for people at high risk of decubitus ulcers or bedsores as they are commonly called. these are not cheap, they range from about 500 to 2000 pounds. i have my eye on the 960 pounds one from Leycare in the Uk.

we cant help everybody in this world of ours..but if we can make a difference for just one person its worthwhile.
if you want to help anything however small will be appreciated.


here is the new link if you wish to give
http://www.turkishliving.com/forums/donate.php

Turkish bank account at İŞ BANK CODE NUMBER:6200 ---account number :279-51-90 .

[panther]

Where do I make my donation. If you get enough money will you get the more expensive one?

[shirleyanntr]

Mustaq is going to make a place for donations..so hang on..ive jumped in as usual..never look before i leap...!!
but we are in a place now to accept donations
with whatever we get i assure you i will see thats its the most appropriate one for a spinal injury patient

[Mushtaq]

The collection is now setup here http://www.turkishliving.com/forums/donate.php

[Martyn]

Good idea, I have donated.

[Grebas]

Me too and I hope we can reach the target soon.

[Carolyn]

Shirley. My mum died two days ago. She was 92 and in a care home. She was confined to bed and unable to move much for the last two or three weeks of her life and so had to be physically turned every two hours. Nevertheless she developed a bed sore at the base of her spine. That caused her more distress and discomfort than the pulmonary fibrosis which finally took her. The home finally managed to get her one of these special mattresses so her last few days were more comfortable.

How this poor man must suffer if he has been bed bound for so long doesn't bear thinking about. I shall be pleased - and honoured - to make a donation, and I'll do it in the name of my mum.

[JEANNIE]

sorry to hear of your loss Carolyn, i'm sure your mum was a bit more comfortable in her last few days. Take care,


Jeannie

[shirleyanntr]

oh Carolyn im so sorry, my condolences, it doesnt matter what age we get to its the finality of it for those behind that causes the most sadness.

[Janeavsallar]

Just made my donation.

It didnt hurt and even made me feel rather good.

So come on everyone dig deep.

Jane